Cowardice

coward: a person who lacks the courage to do or endure dangerous or unpleasant things.

DON’T BE A COWARD!

Easier said than done when only a small minority are standing up against injustice and fighting for what they believe. Why so many cowards? Because it requires tremendous discipline and intentionality to build the fortitude necessary to do unpleasant things.  Here’s a playbook for how not to be a coward… 

Step by Step, How Not to Be a Coward:

  • Strong Relationships:  When we cultivate loving relationships, we have people worth fighting for and a team to fight with us.
  • Strong Faith: When we know who we are, why we exist, and what we value – we know which battles are worth fighting.
  • Strong Minds: When we are mentally wealthy and we know how to think, we won’t buy ideas from swindlers or listen to charlatans.
  • Strong Bodies: When we aren’t taking our physical health and wellbeing seriously, why should anyone take us seriously?
  • Strong Bank Accounts: When we are financially free, we can afford to stand against injustices. Get money, keep it, grow it. Cash is leverage.
  • Strong Resumes: When we have a track record of results, we aren’t imprisoned by anyone or anything. We can take our talent wherever we want whenever we want because we will always be in high demand. When our resumes are strong, we have options.  

The Antidote: The antidote to cowardice is strength. You know you are in a position of strength when people can’t manipulate you by using flattery, criticism, and incentives.  When we build strength in each of the above areas, we no longer need to seek validation or approval from anyone.  We will be free to do what is best. 

Reflection Question: In which area do you need to intentionally build more strength? 

 If you made time to read this, I appreciate you.

 

Balloons

A Teacher at a large school gave every student a balloon. The students then had to inflate it, write their name on it, and throw it in the hallway. The Teacher then went into the hallway and mixed all the balloons. 
 
The students were then given five minutes to go and find their own balloon. Despite a frantic search, no one found their balloon.
 
After five minutes of searching, the Teacher told the students to take the first balloon they found and hand it to the person whose name was written on it. Within five minutes, everyone had their own balloon (Source: Story told to me by Brian Willett).
 
Winning is a lot like this. When you wake up and focus on helping yourself win, you’ll probably come up empty.
 
When you wake up and focus on helping others win, you’ll win too.

Reflection Question: What are you doing daily to make sure you are focusing on helping others?


If you made time to read this, I appreciate you. 

-CK

Regrets

 

August 13, A Personal Story:
Exactly 9 years ago today (August 13, 2012) was the worst day of my life.  On the evening of the 13th, my Dad was out on a run at Strawtown Koteewi Park in Noblesville, Indiana.  He had a massive heart attack and moved quickly from this life to the next.  He was 51 years young and we were devastated.  

There are many significant lessons I learned from my Dad, and I’d like to share one that he gave to me when I was about ten years old:
“One day, you are going to grow up, get married, and have kids. Your kids are going to ask you to play with them. Your beautiful wife will ask for your time and attention. Your kids will ask you to watch them do a cartwheel, or watch them make a game winning three-pointer in the basement, or do a flip off of the diving board. Every time someone you love asks for your attention – you give it to them. You will always have excuses. There is always laundry to be done, dishes that need putting away, a yard to be mowed, or bills to be paid.  Those things are far less important than your time with your family and loved ones.  Stop whatever you are doing and give people your time and attention, you’ll never regret it.”

Regrets?
After my Dad passed, I invested quite a bit of time researching how people feel and what people say as they are approaching the end of their lives. The most interesting data I found was around regrets.  Here is a summary of the findings: If you ask those that are on the verge of death what they regret or would have done differently, they generally say that they hold onto more regrets of inaction rather than of action. In other words they say things like: I regret not starting my business, I regret not spending more time with my loved ones, I regret not traveling more with my spouse, I regret not being healthy enough to walk my daughters down the aisle…

I don’t want you to have those regrets, so here is a proactive process to help you minimize your potential future regrets:

  1. Define my potential future regrets. What are the worst scenarios I can imagine? List a few.
  2. What can I do consistently to prevent or decrease the likelihood of these things happening? 
  3. What will I do today to help prevent the problem from happening?
  4. What will it cost me if I do nothing?  If I avoid this action (and others like it), what might my life look like in one year, five years (emotionally, financially, physically, relationally, etc.)? 


Reflection Question (from Jim Rohn): “In life, we must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret.  Are you choosing the right pain?”

Have a great weekend! I am thankful for you.

-CK

Inner Circles

Sharing a Milestone: This week, I rediscovered the profound value of my inner circle and I am incredibly grateful to know that some of you are part of that group… Yesterday, I had five-hundred books show up on my doorstep and when I opened the thirteen boxes, all of the books inside had my name on the front.  One of the most rewarding things when something like that happens in your life is having people that are genuinely happy for you.  Thankfully, I have a few of those people and I hope you do, too…

Choosing the right inner circle is paramount… Here’s why:

  1. Encouragement: When you make a hard choice to do something that is best for you, they provide edifying advice and support.  Example: You start on a new exercise plan and they sign up to go to the gym with you before work.
    • Accountability:  When you make a stupid decision, they ask questions to help you self-discover your own degeneracy.  Example: You start to let your unhealthy eating get out of control and they ask you if this pattern is helping you become the best version of you.
    • Mourning: When something bad happens in your life, you can tell them and they are there for you (psychological and emotional support).  Example: Your Dad dies and they call every day to listen with you, cry with you, and are physically available to be with you when needed.
    • Celebration: When you have milestones to celebrate, they celebrate with you. Example: You publish your first book and they take you out to dinner and go with you to get your favorite ice-cream for dessert.

    Questions for Reflection:

    1. Based on the criteria above, do you have the right people in your inner circle? 

    2. Based on the criteria above, are you the right person to be in someone else’s inner circle?

    Action Item:  Create an inner circle of people who truly want the best for you (the people you allow in your inner circle says a lot about the standards you set for your life).

    Please Celebrate With Me:  If you would like to celebrate this milestone with me you can help me by please visiting the Amazon Pre-Order page using the link below.  (You don’t even need to buy a copy to help (if you choose to buy one, I appreciate it). Your “visit” to the pre-order page helps with how many of my books Amazon keeps “in-stock” in the Amazon warehouses across the country.  

    If you are reading this, I appreciate you.  Have a great weekend!

    -CK

    Vision

    Vision

    Look around you… What do you see? No seriously. Pause for a minute and take note of what you find in your line of sight.
     
    The Importance of Vision:

    The reason we need to look around and take note of what we see is because we perceive the world primarily through sight. The human body has about eleven million sensory receptors and approximately ten million of those are dedicated to sight. Some experts estimate that more than half of the brain’s resources are used on vision alone. For this reason, changing what you see will help you change what you do (Source: James Clear, Atomic Habits). 
     
    The Importance of Blinders:

    I’ve lived in Kentucky long enough to know that is exactly why horses wear blinders (or blinkers) in horse racing.  They use blinders to prevent them from getting distracted by other horses, birds, or even people. These blinders are used to help the horse stay focused on the jockey and concentrate on what’s ahead. 
     
    Why We Should All Wear Blinders:

    • When you focus on many things, you master nothing and your time is worth very little.
    • When you focus on a few priorities, you start to improve and your time is now worth a little more.
    • When you focus on the priority, you eventually become an expert, and your time becomes valuable. 

     
    Action Item: Wear your blinders, because if you master nothing, your time is worth nothing (or very little). Master something and your time is now worth something.

    If you are reading this, I appreciate you.  Have a great weekend!

    -CK